Happy Mother’s Day to all you beautiful ladies out there. I hope you all strong and awesome women get a day just to yourself. I hope that you all get to do things that you really wanted to do and I hope you all get to sleep more. At least a full night’s or an elongated day sleep. I am sure all you mom’s out there wish for this vital thing in your life – SLEEP. I would want to tell all the husbands to take care of the kids today and even if you can’t really make breakfast in bed and all that, I am sure your wife will love you to give her a full day to herself and let her decide on her own. She may not want anything fancy to do on the Mother’s day. She may just want to sleep till late, not to worry at all for kids or anyone, roam around in her Pj’s with messy hair, really for once cook something that she loves for herself, have that morning cuppa quietly, undisturbed, call her mother to wish Happy mother’s day without any interruption, sit back on the couch and relax and watch her favourite movie, sleep again, wake up and repeat the cycle and get a full night’s sleep. I am sure you can do just this much for your beloved wife. She may as well just wants to be left alone. You may volunteer and ask her if she needs any pampering (which will be an added bonus) but if not I am sure she will enjoy herself on her own. Let her catch up on her sleep, her friends, her favourite movie, her favourite book, her favourite recipe she wanted to cook for such a long time. Now that is going to be a really Happy Mother’s Day, isn’t it?
Anyways, my post is not to tell you all what to do on Mother’s Day but to wish you all a really Happy one. For me this is a special day as I am fully entitled to be wished Happy Mother’s day with a 3 month old in my arms. I have started to realize the importance of that nap time and how to fully utilize it to my benefit be it my favourite household chores, fitness regime reading, writing or work related stuff (yea I enjoy working from home during my maternity leave). I have realized the importance of sleep in real sense and I am already waiting for that day when I get to sleep for a full night. I truly appreciate that the word ‘mom’ isnt easy to come by. It takes a lot to be one. It brought tears in my eyes to realize what my mom might have gone through raising two amazing kids (me and my brother). Now she is helping me take care of my baby, by providing her selfless, untiring support during and after my pregnancy. She has been taking care of my son since he was born in such an amazing way that he has been fond of my mom more than me. The moment he sees her around or hears her voice, I can see that bright alertness in his eyes and that angel smile on his face that is as beautiful as a blessing. My mom has always been very accommodating, indulgent , supportive and pliable. She has been taking care of us adults, home and the baby all at the same time. Now as if that wasn’t enough tiring, she even motivates me for getting my workout done, going out to shop if needed and take more rest. What can I say? I wish if I can at least be half of what she is, I would consider that a blessing and a fulfilled life. I can only think of my pliable justification for her deeds as she being more tolerant mother and an overall calm and composed person than me. I can’t thank her enough for straightening our life, to help us at the right time and I am blessed and happy that my son is getting the love and pampering of his grand parents in his prime months of growing up. The one thing that will stay with me about her after having my baby is to stay as calm and patient as possible (which she knows is hard for me). I am still trying and am getting there slowly. Along with my mom, my husband has been a rock solid support for me and my baby as well. I think we women do need this support life long in everything we do. It’s an equal opportunity for both husband and wife.
One thing I have realized is that we as ‘mom’s’ start to feel guilty and insecure easily. I don’t think we should ever feel that we are not doing enough. I do see and feel that there is a pressure of feeling guilty and insecure seeing other mom’s taking care of their kids. Everyone has a different way of doing things, every baby is different and for heaven’s sake we are not in a competition to prove anyone how good we are as mothers to raise a kid. If someone makes you feel that way, just ignore politely because you are doing an amazing job already. Its your kid, your life and your way. Also working mom’s out there, kudos and bravo for doing such an amazing thing of raising a child and also proving yourself to the world. I understand the loads of work we working moms take and how hard it is to leave our child in someone’s care while we go and show the world our other side of greatness. Its hard and it gets harder but women like us make it a cake walk and possibly an inspiration for other women. I once heard from my top management lady telling me how people will rise **brows** once you resume work after having baby. She also advised me to not pay attention to such negative guilty comments. Those things don’t matter anymore once you see how beautifully you are raising your little one.
Keep doing what you love be it any hobby, fitness, career, reading, along with this amazing thing of raising a baby. Also we need to re-learn the meaning of the word “Delegate” in true sense. We need to start distributing and delegating work in home to our partners more often. I am sure that is exactly why this relationship is called as companionship. We need to start taking time for ourselves more. For me its my rigorous fitness regime. I wish to take some time for catch-up with my girls friends more often now. Another thing I want to do pretty soon is to go see a movie in the theatre all by myself alone. It would be such a fun thing to do, I have done it in the past many times and if you haven’t tried please do so once in your life. It’s such an interesting experience. Carve that time for yourself and see how refreshed you feel. Above all, I have realized that after having a baby planing is the key. It’s all in that planning and routine that you can get heaps done. I know I have a long way and rather more uncertain way to go since mine is just a 3 month old and who knows what lies ahead in coming months, but as of now I have been taking just One day at a time and no rush, just one day. Its been really helpful for both of us and our baby. It just makes things seem little more easy and manageable. Motherhood is definitely challenging and overwhelming and I am sure there is no instant gratification, but one day it all pays off when those little hands are holding our fingers tight, when those little hearts are thankful for us mom’s and when they start noticing mom’s homemade food and deliciously enjoy that.
With this note I am sharing a delicious recipe of Malpua (Indian sweet pancakes) with rabdi that I specially made for my mom. She absolutely loved it and it was all worth the effort with those satiating bites she took one after the other. I have made the rabdi in a more traditional and time-consuming way without using anything that would help milk thicken faster. You may choose to add bread crumbs or condensed milk to help the process speed up. It’s a very simple yet rich recipe that will win hearts for sure. Try it and let me know how it turned out.
Once again Happy Mother’s day to all you beautiful ladies. am going to enjoy my special day quiet differently because for me breakfast in bed and all that is too cliché and I don’t like that anyways, so I will make itsuper fun and low key but extra special 😉
Stay tuned & classy.
- 1/2 cup All purpose flour (Maida)
- 1/2 cup Milk Powder
- 1 Tbspn sooji (optional)
- 1/2 cup warm milk
- 1 Tspn fennel seeds (don't miss these out)
- Pinch of cardamom
- Few blanched Pistachios slivered
- Pinch of Saffron
- For the Sugar Syrup
- 1/2 cup sugar
- 1/2 cup water
- 5-6 Tbspn Ghee for shallow frying
- For the Rabdi
- 1 litre of full fat milk
- 1/4 cup of milk powder (optional)
- 1/4 cup of sugar
- Take a deep heavy bottom pan to make rabdi
- First make Rabdi by boiling milk until it thickens.
- Once the milk is half way boiled, add sugar and milk powder, stir continuously to make sure the milk does not stick at the bottom.
- Keep stirring tirelessly until you see a really creamy thick mixture that has looks creamish in color
- Mix Flour, fennel seeds, sooji and cardamom powder together.
- Start adding warm milk slowly and whisk it simultaneously to make sure there are no lumps
- Keep this batter aside covered
- Now take a deep pan and add sugar and water together and boil till sugar dissolves and the mixture thickens a bit. This is the consistency of the syrup you want. Not too much. Add pinch of saffron to the syrup
- Now heat a wide pan and add ghee to it
- Once the ghee is hot fry the small pua's two at a time if you have a wide enough pan or just one
- Fry until they are golden brown and cooked on both sides
- Fry all the pua' s and keep them stack on a plate
- When ready to serve dip each pua's in the sugar syrup and plate them up
- Add the prepared rabdi on top and garnish with slivered pistachios
- Enjoy warm puas with chilled rabdi or puas just by themselves straight from the sugar syrup
- You can shorten the time of making Rabdi if you want to use more milk powder or bread crumbs or condensed milk to thicken the milk faster. I have made it more conventional way of just keep stiring the milk. I liked it that way. Worth all that effort.